How to be a Person of Integrity

You are a person of integrity to the degree to which you live your life consistent with the values that you espouse. Integrity is the quality that locks in your values and causes you to live consistent with them. In short, a person of integrity practices what they preach.

Here are some things to look at when trying to judge your own integrity:

  1. Are you honest with yourself? Are you living consistently with your own values and virtues?
  2. Are the behaviors that you engage in on a daily basis consistent with your values? How do you handle the unexpected ups and downs of life? What you say, what you do, says a lot about the kind of person that lies behind your worldly mask.
  3. Your integrity shows itself in your work. Do you strive to do the very best you can at all your work? Your job. Your studies and homework? A person of true integrity realizes that everything they do is a statement about who they really are. Your actions speak so loudly that people can no longer hear your words.
  4. Do you know what you stand for? It’s what you stand for, and what you don’t stand for, that tells you and the world what kind of person you are.
  5. What are the five most important values in life? What would you pay for, sacrifice for, suffer for and even die for? What would you stand up for, or refuse to lie down for? What do you treasure? What makes you get out of bed every morning? What drives you? What is the guiding and motivating force in your life? The answers to these questions form the foundation of your character. Whenever you are forced to choose between acting on one value or another, always choose the value that is the highest on your own personal hierarchy.
  6. Are you constant and consistent? Can people rely on you, or are you a flake? How devoted are you to keeping your word? Can you always be trusted to do the right thing?
  7. What kind of shape is your reputation in? Do you guard it? Can you fix it? What do you have a reputation for?
  8. Do you hang out with people of integrity? Do you surround yourself with people of character? Birds of a feather flock together.
  9. What kind of communication do you have with your inner voice? Do you know the difference between the whispers in your ear from the “Angel” on your right shoulder, and the “Devil” on your left ?
  10. Are your relationships with family and friends completely honest? Are you living a lie? When you are doing and saying one thing on the outside, but really feeling and believing something different on the inside, it makes life miserable. Open up, spill the beans, everyone will benefit from your honesty.

Just remember that it is easy to make promises and hard to keep them, but if you do, every single act of integrity will make your character a little stronger. And as you improve the quality and strength of your character, every other part of your life will improve as well. In no time at all, your family, friends, team mates, teachers, and co-workers will see and appreciate the difference in your relationships with them.