Virtue of the Week: Friendliness

Friends,

In our dealings with those caught in vice, mercy is incomplete unless we preach what we practice; name it, say it out loud, call it vice. We have winked, giggled, made alibis, or ignored vice all too long. Our condescending "non-judgmentalism" doesn’t help people who are struggling with life’s problems. A friend in deed is one who says quietly, but firmly, "What you’re doing friend is wrong. It is harmful to you and to others. It is destructive to you and the future of your family."Coach Traeger
What is a friend? Friends are people with whom you dare to be yourself. Your soul can be naked with them. They ask you to put on nothing, only to be what you are. They do not want you to be better or worse. When you are with them, you feel as a prisoner feels who has been declared innocent. You do not have to be on your guard. You can say what you think, as long as it is genuinely you. Friends understand those contradictions in your nature that lead others to misjudge you. With them you breathe freely. You can avow your little vanities and envies and hates and vicious sparks, your meannesses and absurdities, and in opening them up to friends, they are lost, dissolved on the white ocean of their loyalty. They understand. You do not have to be careful. You can abuse them, neglect them, tolerate them. Best of all, you can keep still with them. It makes no matter. They like you. They are like fire that purges to the bone. They understand. You can weep with them, sing with them, laugh with them, pray with them. Through it all–and underneath–they see, know, and love you. A friend? What is a friend? Just one, I repeat, with whom you dare to be yourself.C. Raymond Beran
I would rather have speeches that are true than those which contain merely nice distinctions. Just as I would rather have friends who are sincere than merely those who are handsome.Augustine


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