Virtue of the Week: Moderation

Teens and Moderation of TechnologyTEENS AND MODERATION OF TECHNOLOGY

By Rachel Simmons

What’s the impact of technology on teens socially?

You can’t talk about teens, and raising teens, without talking about social media. And because it is essential to teens, parents must participate. Some parents feel so overwhelmed and confused by the onslaught of gadgetry that they want to log out. They can’t. Just because something is electronic doesn’t give parents a pass not to engage. There is seamless integration between their online lives and their real lives. They constantly move between those worlds in a way that adults will never understand. Social media is the biggest and most important change in the lives of today’s adolescents.

Should parents be concerned that teens seem to be constantly connected?

The average pre-teen or teen is not capable of moderating their use of technology. They are addicts. Girls are addicts because they are relationship addicts and social media enables relationships. Kids desperately need parents to set limits on use. Technology is a place where you can’t be your child’s friend. I always say to parents, “If your kid likes your technology policy, you’re probably doing something wrong.” Your kid should be a little annoyed at you for your technology limits, and if she’s not, I guarantee she’s probably on it too much or she is one of those rare kids who does not want to be. Parents need to understand that, despite their love for social media, these technologies often end up making kids feel more insecure in the world.

People who are always taking care of their health are like misers, who are hoarding a treasure which they have never spirit enough to enjoy.Laurence Sterne
The choicest pleasures of life lie within the ring of moderation.Martin Tupper

Quick link about Moderation:

Ralph Waldo Emerson on Moderation