Virtue of the Week: Responsibility

responsibilityPunishment is now unfashionable… because it creates moral distinctions among men, which, to the democratic mind, are odious. We prefer a meaningless collective guilt to a meaningful individual responsibility.

—Thomas Szasz

Failing to take responsibility

The consequences for not taking responsibility can be very serious indeed and typically end-up defining your whole life.

At one time or another, we all fall into these “failing to take responsibility” traps…..

People pleasers: We become dependent on others for recognition, approval, affirmation, and acceptance. We are slaves to what others think.

The Angry, hostile or depressed: Life treating you unfairly? We get mad or depressed because we think we are the only ones that the world is picking on.

The Fearful: We are unable to trust ourselves to take a risk or make a decision, we are frightened of everything.

The Failing: We give up taking responsibility because we believe that we will fail in all relationships and all the enterprises we take on in life.

The Emotionally or physically unhealthy: We give up on ourselves and stop supporting and taking care of ourselves.

The Addictive personality: Escaping responsibility, looking for external answers, we turn to drugs, alcohol, and other addictions.

The Over responsible and guilt ridden: We spend all our efforts rescuing and enabling others in our life, we are not comfortable unless we feel needed.

Unable to Trust: We are unable to trust or to feel secure with others, and therefore we never let anyone get “close” to us emotionally.

The Resistant to vulnerability: Fear of being vulnerable, often linked to past trauma.

We are all human, we need to encourage each other past these traps, and be less judgmental to those who get swept up in them.

Here are several videos on responsibility: